Five of the Kids 2006
Being in a blended family can be tough to say the least. The Reed family is a mixture of “His, Hers & Ours.” The husband had two kids before we met, I had one, and we have three together. I thought it would be easy having a blended family because I treat the kids according to their behavior not whose blood runs within them. As they grow up, however, it seems things get more chaotic. The children pick up habits from us, and test their boundaries often enough.
Maybe I’m saying too much in this post, but this is my true feelings and my true struggles that many have and I would like to reach out to them…
My husband struggles a bit with my oldest daughter, which causes struggles for the whole house. His struggles may be a personality clash and a blended family issue. He’s been in her life since she was two, so I’d like to think the issue is more a personality clash. I haven’t figured it completely out. Sadly, he isnt into the counseling thing, nor is he the type to search out resources for the answer.
I haven’t quite decided how to fix this, but it is worsening and I reached out for help by finding quality resources that could help me understand, help me be patient, and to help me not get hooked in and stay centered to fix the issue if it’s possible to fix.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m no angel. Since the issues have been more obvious I have a fit when the husband doesn’t realize when the other kids are having the same mannerism that he only corrects when Renae does these things. Maybe he expects more from her because she is oldest… Still unsure, but I found resources to help myself and other blended families alike:
- Stepparenting - strategies for stepparents, stepparents and discipline, stepchildren, communicating and bonding with stepchildren, combing families, the ex and extended families, making a happy home, holidays and special events, legal aspects of stepparenting, expert advise, and much more.
- The Parent Report (Stepparenting Successfully) – A stepparenting forum. Talk to other parents like you.
- Step Talk – Another great forum for stepparents.
- Stepparenting from iVillage – Many articles that can help.
- Family Corner – Articles, articles, and more
I hope these helped you as much as they help me. I will send more your way as I find useful stepparenting resources. Any resources you know we should all be reading please post a comment below. Thanks a ton.
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