Posts Tagged ‘husband’

Handling Laundry Woes

Posted 14 Dec 2009 — by Jennifer
Category Time & Money

Six kids and two adults… Clothes, Clothes, and more Clothes! How does it all get done? Washing, folding, and putting away so many clothes when there is so much to do during our days that seem hours too short. When I worked all day while being a full time student I didn’t even try to get it done. My family lived out of clothes’ stacks. I would sort out the clothes; boys, girls, baby, and ours, and that’s about all that got done!

My husband spends lots of time in the garage unwinding: smokes, has a few beers, chats with friends. While he is in the garage he washes laundry. I’m lucky for that. I hate to wash clothes. My main task is getting them to where they belong. We moved recently and there is more room, more room means more things have a space. I set to fold every one’s clothes, since I’m home during the day. I realized that the only one, out of the eight of us, kept my neat stacks put up was the baby.

My husband would toss his stack in the closet on the floor, partly because he refuses to bring our old dresser in the house. He wants a new one, his thinking is if he doesn’t bring the old one in then he will conquer all and get a new one. That never works, the dresser will be in the house in a few weeks (mark my words)!  Sinya, the 8 year old, was neat enough to put her clothes on top of her dresser. First thing in the morning when it’s time to find something to wear, the clothes would be thrown about. The older girls opted themselves out of a dresser. All the years they’ve had a dresser, the only thing I found in their drawers was lost papers and doll clothes. The older girls now hang up all their clothes. The boys end up throwing all things in their closet. They don’t care about the time it took me to fold at all.

With all that said, I refuse to fold every one’s clothes once again. They are all old enough and capable of handing their own clothes’ stack. If it’s thrown about they know the drill! Don’t ask me to play on the computer, it won’t happen! I only sort the clothes out: the  teen girls, the boys, the younger girls, the adults! I fold the babies and the adult clothes only once again!

How does your family handle the laundry business? If I’m missing something that would truly help my situation I will follow suit, but I tend to think my way is the best way. Please comment below and let me know how you get it done! And of course:

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Pure Laziness, Too Dependant, or BOTH

Posted 14 Oct 2009 — by Jennifer
Category All Things Techy, Reed Tidbits

Cell phones

The husband is laying down upstairs watching TV after a hard days work. The kids and I are downstairs keeping quiet so the husband can rest.

Jamarae, my 10 year old ask: “What’s wrong with my dad’s cell phone, why isn’t that his number anymore?”

Me: It’s his number; I have to pay the bill! (He has metropcs, it’s an unlimited prepaid plan… You forget the due date and you are reminded by being disconnected)

Jamarae: Well then, how do I get a hold of him?

Me: (Thinking to self, is he serious?!) “YOU GO UPSTAIRS!”

I do the same thing don’t get me wrong. I text my husband or call my husband when he is just 15 feet away in the back patio. But if his phone is off or charging I know how to get a hold of him. I get up and walk to him to talk to him.

Do we rely on cell phones and computers a little too much? My son almost gave up asking his dad something, he had no idea he can actually walk up the stairs to talk to him. What is wrong with us in today’s age?

This week, to set a good example I opt to just get up and talk to the husband. I won’t call him if he is within walking distance. My poor son and it’s my entire fault!

Note: My dummy move, why did I text my husband this morning… wondering why I haven’t gotten a text back… “HIS PHONE IS OFF!” Duh!

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Working From Home, the Balancing Act

Posted 04 Oct 2009 — by Jennifer
Category Reed Educates, Self Awareness

There are some things you learn best in calm, and some in storm. – Willa Cather

This is why I wish one of you were reading along with me, our self awareness series, day 7, entry by Sarah Ban Breathnach for October 4th, in her book, Simple Abundance, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy quotes the above statement. I love the quote, but dont believe it 100% fits Breathnach’s lesson for today!

Today’s lesson speaks of “Homework.” When I say homework, I’m not speaking of those worksheets your children bring home! I’m talking about working from home, “your” homework. Breathnach tells us that it becomes difficult for work at home moms because we dont set clear hours. Often, we are caught cleaning house and space off work, or working hard and spacing off household needs. Working at home works well if a balance in work and home needs is found.

I find at times I get caught up as well. My normal day starts off with coffee and food. I straighten up the house for about 30 minutes, and then I sit down to get started on work. Work starts around 9:30am if I discipline myself. Work includes checking emails and my calendar, following up with any affiliates I work with, viewing website stats, writing post for you, pushing our post out to the world, checking my feed reader for blogs I follow, check my YouTube subscriptions for new videos, updating and viewing social media networks I subscribe to, follow what’s happening in the world, check website stats again to see if I’m meeting daily goals, and then I plan the next days work. Obviously, there is more to what I do, but this is my daily cycle. If this is all I do for the day, I’m done by 7pm or so. But realistically, I find other things to do for the website, like RESEARCH! Then I have these kids, so I stop what I’m doing and clean, cook, help with homework, do laundry, and many other things. So my day isn’t over till 9-10pm.

Lesson, set work hours and stick to them most of the time. I should start at 9:30am, and stop myself at 3pm. Take care of the kids’ needs and such till about 8pm, and work a bit more after they are settled. If I stick to a schedule, the kids will get attention, the husband won’t think I was on the computer all day, and work will get done!

I’ve talked about pacing yourself before. So this is a good way to prioritize what needs to be done with balance. If you work part-time or full-time from home, how do you create balance in your home with work and family needs? I love to hear from you, please comment below.   

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    No Break

    Posted 02 Oct 2009 — by Jennifer
    Category Reed Tidbits

    HouseworkI’m sitting here and its only 7pm. Im wore out today! Besides the fact my neighbor had an emergency, and I watched other ill’ ones today. I just realize that I get no break now that the husband is back at work. I’m glad he is back at work, dont get me wrong. The baby and I have our alone time, no need to make a huge breakfast, and I have complete control of the house while he is away. I thought I was doing it all before, I must not have been! I feel bad; I thought he didn’t do much when he was home at all. I thought I was doing EVERYTHING!

    Now he is on his feet all day and up by 4am every morning, so I try to make things comfortable for him. A bit pathetic, but I dont even ask him to keep an eye on the baby for my showers. I fit them in while the baby is napping, and before the other kids are off to school.  I make sure dinner is done early, I dont ask him to make extra errands, make sure his lunch is prepared for the next day, make sure the house is tidy before he gets home from his hard days work, and make sure it’s picked up at night so that he doesn’t wake up to a mess. I just want him to sit down and rest.

    His feet hurt most days, mostly because he isnt used to standing all day! He is tired when he gets home as well; it takes time to get used to an early schedule. I assume I can get little breaks in again once he is settled with his new job. I miss my quick trips to the gym, my walk over to the neighbors, and quick trips to my dads without the kids, even though they were few trips I made. I could make them leisurely without worrying about the husband on overload due to my break from the task of taking care of house! I believe all will be back on track for my “me” time, even if it’s 15 minutes here or there, soon! A few weeks maybe?!

    At home parents, how do you cope, and how to you make things pleasant for the working parent? Please share with comments.

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    Birth Weight Health Risk & My Experience

    Posted 25 Sep 2009 — by Jennifer
    Category Reed Educates, Reed Tidbits
    A 19 pound baby? Are you serious? Have you seen the recent news of the woman in Indonesia who had a 19 pound baby? What a miracle!?

    I thought my babies were big. My smallest baby was one ounce shy of being 9 pounds, and my biggest baby was 10 lbs 1 oz! We have big babies here at the Reed house!

    Health risk comes from having big babies. The only baby I had zero complications with was my smallest, Sinya. My last, Yissie, could’ve been fatal for her or me.

    Having Yissie, put a stop to my baby making days for sure! A week before having her I could hardly breathe laying in bed, trying to induce her early was a failure! When she was ready to come, it was a frightening experience. Come time to push! Low and behold! At least 10-15 doctors ran in the room, one knocking over the big bulky monitoring system. My baby was so broad, she was stuck, and her shoulders weren’t making their way out! 

    My husband couldn’t take it, he runs out the room, doctors are shouting, my visitors crying, my mother in law shouts “the devil is a lie!”, and the only one that would watch the ordeal pan out is my own mother.

    One doctor yells at me, to “PUSH”… This isnt a regular request to push, this was a “your life depends on this” push! Now they have her shoulders out, she is still stuck! A few doctors are now trying to inch my babies’ torso out by turning her from side to side!

    Once things calmed down, they take my baby from me, her blood sugar is low! Now that her blood sugar is fixed, the doctors are concerned with my health! My blood pressure was too low and temperate too high. I’m told I could hemorrhage, or have an infection. With my symptoms and the fact I had a large baby, I was to not get out of bed. I must wait, and watch my health get better or worse!

    Of course, Im fine. I’m here today! You’re baby can be small, or large! Health risk comes with the territory! Giving birth to any baby can pose complications! This woman in Indonesia with a 19 pound baby, she experienced nothing less of a miracle! Click here to read more about this miracle.

    Have you had any birthing complications? Please share your story with our readers by commenting.

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    Mr. Fisherman Catches Pregnant Leopard Shark

    Posted 22 Sep 2009 — by Jennifer
    Category Reed Tidbits

    My husband, Mr. Fisherman, comes home Sunday with a leopard shark! This shark was caught in the Benicia area. It was about 4 feet in length, and she was a heavy one.

    So now I have to get to work, he wants this beauty filleted. Low and behold, the poor lady shark was pregnant with 28 pups, and had eggs galore!


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    So sad that she was pregnant, he had no idea! Had he known, I’m sure he would’ve released the shark. Of course I have to do my part and make him feel really bad! I call him a murderer a few times a day.

    Too bad, so sad! I’ll still help eat her, but Man Oh Man!

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    Time is of the Essence!

    Posted 21 Sep 2009 — by Jennifer
    Category Reed Tidbits

    Day in and day out, we handle our day as if it’s just another day. Grabbing our to-do list, finishing our goals for the day, not getting enough sleep, leaving our spouse to fall asleep on their own, and at times forgetting to tuck our children in for bed, forgetting time is of the essence.

    Time is of the Essence. I say this because we’ve had our wake up call! My husband received a phone call this morning that his old friend, whom he hasn’t spoke to in years, passed in a car accident this morning. This man is but 37 years old, if that! His children have lost their father, if he had a significant other, she no longer wakes up to him, or falls asleep with his warmth. 

    My point is this; we get so caught up in time… Too often, I sleep in bed with the kids, and my husband is on the couch. Too often, we don’t speak about life; we only speak about what is necessary to run the house. Too often, we brush the kids off, because we are busy. Time is of the essence. It’s time to put down our to-do list and put down our pride, just for a few moments out the day, and remind our loved ones that we’re truly there for them.

    Have you told your good friends you were thinking about them lately? Is there someone out there that you should reach out? Maybe, there is that one person that you need to forgive. Have you spoken the words of love to your family lately, in action, not in words? Let’s all be sure to not lose sight of time, and remind those around us how special they really are.

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    Four Benefits of My Husband Fishing

    Posted 23 Aug 2009 — by Jennifer
    Category Reed Tidbits

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    Am I the only one out here that longs for those days that the husband chooses to get out of the house for the day? My husband went fishing today, and I say “Yippie”! Is that so bad? Not that I don’t love him being around, I just need “me” time most of the time. I’m sure he needs it just as much as I do. Here are my top four reasons for the husband going away for the day: 

    Complete access to the remote control

    He doesn’t like watching my reality TV shows, nor does he like to watch Noggin (Yissie’s favorite channel). When he is away, I can watch whatever I please. Not that he is controlling. He has no other entertainment at the house, so I allow him to have the remote control when he is home. When he watches TV, I can waste my day away on the computer or waste my day by reading a book. It all works out, but I can catch up on all my great shows when he is away, that’s a plus.

     Kids give me peace

    When he is home, the kids follow me around without a doubt. If I’m downstairs, they’re there as well. If I’m in my room, they’re nearby still. I believe this happens, because they know that I will give them a few inches before I decide to punish them for an undesirable action they committed to, they only get a few centimeters before they are in trouble with dad.

    No silly ”antics”

    I may be the only one that is special enough to see these antics that husbands do. It could be that only my husband does it… I haven’t figured it out. My husband shakes his head and blows out hot air over little things that I do, things that I do that may bother him. Does it bother me that he does this? Sometimes, but mostly not. I feel its his “little kid” like reaction, you know, like how kids suck in their teeth at you… My kids know better then to do that mostly, but I guess my husband does these things, because there is no outright punishment to this type of action, from a 36 year old man, except the fact I can nag him or tease him further.  I find its funner to tease him, until he runs from me, and goes outside. Then we go back through this list, because he will stay out there all day if he didn’t need to eat, drink, sleep, and go to the bathroom. Call it wrong, but I use this to my advantage at times. My using this to our advantage got us our last dog, Pico (that’s another blog)!

     Fish

    Half the time he will come back with a fish, or some fish. I love fish, but when caught from the river there is the mercury scare. Too much mercury in fish means we must limit ourselves to how much we eat. When he comes home he piles them in the sink to be dealt with. Don’t tell him this, but he can’t fillet a fish if his life depended on it. We don’t get much meat out of the deal. When I take on this dirty and stinky task, we can enjoy a fish dinner or two.

    So, if your husband says he is going fishing for the day (if he is anything like my husband), just say to him, “Have fun my dear hunter of fish, take all day and night if you need. “Shoot, don’t come back till you have some fish!’

    Please comment your reasons of delight in your husband leaving for the day, or let me know if I’m just slightly crazy. Am I wrong or is there other wives like me?

      

    Pico

    Pico

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    Five Minutes Notice Please

    Posted 21 May 2009 — by Jennifer
    Category Reed Tidbits
    200350619_748789c2b1_m1How many times do I have to ask my husband to let me know when people are coming inside the house? It’s not that my house is dirty. But at times there are toys all over the living room, and things here or there on the kitchen counter.

     I come out the bathroom and he has 2 of our neighbors in the house, who have never been in our house. Worst then that, he tries showing them pictures of an old car we had and is in a folder of not so cute pictures of me. You know those pictures of that awkward stage we all had.

    Okay, where was my quick warning. It is what it is. A messy house appears to mean dear ole wife doesn’t do too much. Why doesn’t she keep her house clean?

    Had it gone my way…..? A five minute warning would do the trick. 

    Wipe down anything that needs a quick wipe, throw some toys in the toy box, and then what do you know? They walk in and I’m doing dishes. How perfect is that, a wonderful wife who is cleaning her house.

    On a good note, my husband doesn’t care either way. He knows what I do and what I don’t do; and that is all that matters to him. Thanks Husband!

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