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Renae & Robyn

Blended Families

Blended families could be a tough one, especially in the child or teen’s case. “What is today? Oh, I belong at my moms today, and then tomorrow at my dads!” As if there isn’t enough of other things to keep track of, like homework, the latest trends, and other trivial teen things. My stepchildren are to be at our home Wednesday at 3pm till Saturday at 8pm. It works well, and we chose this schedule so both homes can instill morals into the children’s lives, and both parents can have a hand at the children’s future and learning process. 

Communication has been an issue in the past, and will probably continue to be an issue. My husband doesn’t get much response when trying to parent with his children’s mother, but each day is a new day. We take one step at a time. Team parenting can get difficult when those who parent together, yet live different lives, have opposite views and parenting skills and views. It seems this has benefited my teen step-daughter in having things her way, however, made it worse for her because she has gotten herself into too much trouble these last few months.

Change for the Best

My teen step-daughter, Robyn, moved in full time again a few weeks ago. I believe she is here to stay for a long while. Robyn is finally settled in after a few weeks of playing “back-and-forth” between my husband’s mother’s home and ours! She was going back and forth because Robyn’s mother wanted her to spend her custody days with my husband’s mother. That didn’t work out well for several reasons, the other kids weren’t feeling it, Robyn wanted to be with her siblings, and well… other reasons!

Last time we tried having Robyn full time her mom only lasted a week and came and got her on her scheduled day with a police escort as if we’d object. (More about that here) I understand how hard it is to not see your baby daily, no matter how old the child is, but what’s right for the child is right for the child. I know this all too well in Renae’s case. Renae, too, lives with her dad most of the time this last year due to her high school’s location.

Issues at Hand

I’m not putting all of Robyn’s business out to internet land without her permission, but I will say she has made too many wrong choices and is on her way to making the correct choices to better what she has done in the last few months. We’ve changed her school to a great school who will not only keep an eye out on her but will instill the drive in her to want to continue on a successful road. We are constantly reminding her which path is the correct one, and standing by her with unconditional love. Her mom just so happens to live in an environment that is unhealthy for our baby. The neighborhood is not good and the mix of more freedom then she needs, it is a toxic environment for her.

A Good Day

I’m happy to say, her mom is picking her up today after school. They haven’t spent quality time together since the beginning of this month. This will be a great day for both of them. I’m sure they miss each other more then anything! This will give them both a sense of relief and will be a good start for a new beginning for Robyn. My heart goes out to her mom for making a big decision in regards to making Robyn’s situation a better one.

& You

Have you had to make a huge decision in hopes to better your family life? Please share by commenting below, it may help others to take a step in the right direction!

To stay updated on what happens next with getting Robyn on the right track subscribe to our updates by clicking here. Who knows, maybe Robyn will start writing to help other teens; she is a great writer (I wanted her to open her own fictional writing space, but she has been grounded from the computer)!

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