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Song & Dance

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Posted 28 Jun 2010 — by Jennifer
Category Self Awareness

In my backyard is a weed. It’s a tall an ugly sticky weed. Wake up bright and early this weed is magnificent and speaks one word, that word is beauty! A beautiful purple flower rests on top of each of these weeds. Simple and beautiful is this weed, I can find the good in such a thing.

Throughout the day I sing a ‘song and dance’. I move to the beat of my own drum, something that would sound like a song from a Yo Gabba Gabba special! I’m an extremely happy person, finding good in even the bad. I find the good through a lesson learned or I find a way to reason with the negative, seeing the person or the situation for what it is. At work a few ladies have told me that I always have a smile on my face and they notice I’m a very happy person. I know how happy I am, but hearing others around me take notice is very special. Others noticing my state of happiness means I’m beaming with happiness! Beaming with happiness is much different then simply being a happy person.

I think my happiness stems from the way I see life and from the people I surrond myself with. I keep drama away at all cost. As I said before, I sing a tune through out the day. I meant this in a literal sense. I sing stupid songs throughout my day, something my step father did. We always laughed as kids and now my kids laugh at me. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had moments in my darkest hours, just as we all have. Again, it’s when I pick myself up and when I find the good in my situation that I’m most proud of myself and the situation I have overcome.

Basically, looking over the years I’m getting older and wiser. I’m at peace with who I’ve become and love myself for the good and bad. Of great importance, I look at people even in their ugliest moment and seek the good always trying to look pass the negative factors. No matter what you are, a person or a purple flowered weed waiting to be mowed down in my backyard I look at the beauty of the person or the situation.

Do you have song and dance? What beat is your drum telling? How do you look past the ugly and see the beauty in people or your situations? Please share by commenting below.

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Always Strive for More Big and Small

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Posted 04 Feb 2010 — by Jennifer
Category Self Awareness

Striving for more in all that you do is a great start to all things big and small. Striving for more doesn’t have to be doing more then the Jones’ nor does it mean you have to struggle and hurt yourself getting where you want to be neither. When striving for more the simple things are a great start.

Strive to be more organized, be a little earlier to work, spend more time with family, and by being more conscious of others around us .. it can be as simple as not procrastinating and taking your behind to that appointment you keep putting off. All things matter and all things we aim to do better at will make life that much simpler for each of us and will guide us to the next step in what we need. Good health, good relationships, better finance, more order in our lives… the list goes on an on.

What can you do starting this week to strive for more, to do  better, to have the simplicity we all need in our daily lives? How will you begin your journey in having something more, whether it be time, money, love, or family? I plan to strive for more by showing up at work earlier, to not put off bills, to spend more time with my family, to add 100 new blog hits a day to Reed What Matters, and to add 10% to my customer growth at work by the end of this quarter. In doing so I will have more structure, more finance, new friendships, and have a better relationship with all in my home.

The simple things matter just as the bigger things. The simple things can lead to the big things. Make a difference in your daily life today and please share below by commenting how you will make a difference simple or big!

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“Let me Loosen Up my Tie”

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Posted 02 Nov 2009 — by Jennifer
Category Reed Tidbits, Self Awareness

Let me Loosen Up my TieI’ve been blogging since May 2009. Not long at all, changes will come along the way as I see fit or as our readers go through changes.

Changes We’ve Already Made

  1. Reed What Matters lowered the amount of self awareness post - I don’t write those daily anymore but I still write on how to empower self if that is what you are here for.
  2. Our savings moved to Saving Money with Reed. Those who come here just for freebies and coupons would rather not search through articles of family stuff, and those who come here for articles don’t want to sift through coupons and such. I get that!
  3. Reed What Matters annoys you here and there by changing our theme around. Sorry, I want to get the site right. We are new, this will happen from time to time until it is right for you and me.

Changes to Come

  1. I’ve become more comfortable each day, I’m going to “Loosen my tie” so to speak – I’ve never been nothing less then myself, but I’ve stopped writing a post because I was worried what would come of certain post. Would I lose all my readers? Would I gain more? Will my readers care if I post a tidbit or two? Those are questions I’ve asked myself time and time again, all the while clicking the “delete draft” button. Nothing shocking, just me being me. I stop myself thinking… “Does that really add value?” I can now answer, “It may not for some but it will for another!” Someone will love it, someone went through it, someone never thought about it!
  2. Oh, and I have to get a real job soon… It’s been a nice year at home but… yea, a real job! One that involves leaving the house so… I won’t write as much, mostly daily, but not as much! Anyone want to take a stab at guest posting, maybe you don’t have a blog and have been thinking of trying it out. Maybe you have one and enjoy guest posting! Let me know. I’d be glad to let you get a feel for it or write about what really matters, family education and entertainment, right?
  3. When I made this site my hopes were that the whole family would be a part of Reed What Matters, this didn’t happen! Don’t be suprised if Reed What Matters extends out to kids in the near future.

All in all, I’m here to teach, to learn and to grow with you; my readers, my friends, my family, my community! I hope you stick around because I’m not going anywhere but forward.  If you disagree with these changes or want to add your 2 cents, please comment below my dear friends! I love to hear from you!

 

 

 

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Accepting Compliments

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Posted 19 Oct 2009 — by Jennifer
Category Self Awareness

Nowadays we are all of us so hard up that the only pleasant things to pay are compliments. – Oscar Wilde

Our self awareness series discusses the entry by Sarah Ban Breathnach for October 19th, in her book, Simple Abundance, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy quotes the above statement.

We all love to hear compliments. I once told my husband that I felt like I was his cancer. Not that he has cancer, just that I felt that I meant to him what cancer would feel like to him had he had cancer. Bold statement, I know!

I only felt this bad because he would focus on the negative. Some people just get things done that way. I tend to focus on positives. Hearing what you do wrong all day isn’t a walk in the park. I don’t want to hear negative if you have anything positive to say. If you provide both then we can talk.

With that said, is this his fault? Breathnach reminds us that we often let people know we don’t want compliments.

Husband: Your hair looks nice!
Wife: Not really, I spent 45 minutes on it…

Friend: You’re so sweet to me!
Self: Not really, I like doing stuff like this.

Just say thank you when a compliment is given to you. Goodness! When we don’t accept compliments from those that give them to us, people decide you don’t want the compliment. Then you’re sitting up somewhere in a bad mood wondering why people don’t acknowledge all that you do for them.

They love you and very thankful for you, I’m sure of it. Sometimes we just make it harder for others to show us. Accept compliments and give them often, daily even! You should see a difference in your attitude and others around you.

Who are you thankful for and why? Can you pay them a compliment today?!

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Our Dark Shadows

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Posted 13 Oct 2009 — by Jennifer
Category Self Awareness

I have a little shadow that goes in and out of me. And what can be the use of [her] is more than I can see. – Robert Louis Stevenson

Our self awareness series discusses the entry by Sarah Ban Breathnach for October 13th, in her book, Simple Abundance, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy quotes the above statement.

Breathnach explains to her readers that these shadows could very well be our “uglies” or our bad behaviors. These behaviors usually mask something great, our authentic selves. She further explains that we should let our bad behaviors come out to play a little here and there, so that these behaviors are understood by us and don’t take us by surprise later. We can use these behaviors as tools to better understand ourselves.

In letting your ”ugly” behaviors out, be careful to not let them all put on a show at once. I’ve seen many do just that and not realize it or feel remorse later. I have let all my bad behaviors out at once a few times in my lifetime as well. I’m truly sorry to those that have experienced all these shadows or bad behaviors of mine. I’ve broken a heart or two showing all the ugliness I had inside and forgetting beauty does shine within. I truly feel bad but forgive myself, I’ve learned more about who I am through this dark part of my life.

That is all you can do, forgive yourself and remember the lesson it has taught you about yourself. Know what you are capable of, make sure you dont repeat these bad behaviors in such an ugly way. Be you, but be well. Again, these “shadows” we all possess should only come out little by little. We are, by nature, good people. When we let all these “shadows” out at once, we dont look so nice.

In a nut shell, know you for you, the good, the bad, and the ugly! Embrace you, and love your authentic self.  

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    Negativity

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    Posted 12 Oct 2009 — by Jennifer
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    41FACDE4BGL__SL160_Our self awareness series will take on another voice today, Anne Wilson Schaef wrote a daybook called “Meditations for Women Who Do Too Much,” I’d like to go over her October 12th entry “Confused Thinking/Judgementalism.” 

    I realize what a lot of negativity there is in the world and all around us and how easy it is to become part of that negativity and to be sucked into it and become part of the chaos and confusion if one isn’t very careful. – Eileen Caddy

    The above Shaef quotes and explains how easy it is to get sucked into negativity, and in being judgmental. At the workplace we are taught to look for error, and to make change. In working day to day we’re “rewarded for analyzing, comparing, criticizing, and being negative.”

    How do we break the cycle, and stop just at that? Analyzing and comparing is one thing, judging is another. When we lose sight and become judgmental of people or things, we are now biased and have lost complete focus of the job at hand.

    This happens at home as well. What we see daily in the news, in our homes, or right out our front door, that site can be a lesson by analyzing and comparing the situation. We lose the lesson in our observation when we judge. Not only do we lose focus, we also look like big idiots.

    I find myself getting too involved and getting reeled into garbage as well. In regards to my daughter getting sick (Parenting Mistakes & My Poor Sinya), I vented a bit, and was a bit judgmental. Not so bad that I called out any one’s name in a bad manner, but I was frustrated enough. I should’ve just taken the incident for what it is, some people just don’t know better, and kids get sick. Oh well, keep it moving. See, as I said, we all get too involved one way or another. We need to be aware is all, and bring things back into perspective.

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    It’s Always Something

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    Posted 11 Oct 2009 — by Jennifer
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    11227682_0f70b4e1d9Isn’t it always something? Even on the best of days, there is that unpaid bill, lack of time, a headache! Whatever it is be thankful that it’s just an issue, and not a crisis. Even the most well put together people have an issue or two that they can talk about. What would be life without a tribulation now and again? Where would we get our lessons from if there wasn’t a mishap here and there?

    Our self awareness series entry by Sarah Ban Breathnach for October 11th, in her book, Simple Abundance, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy speaks of there always being something that we can complain of. She speaks on a greater note; however, being thankful your complaints are only issues and not a crisis. Too many people start living for their true passions once a crisis hits. The crisis can be a health issue, a death in the family, a complete turnover on financial status, homelessness, anything that is life changing.

    I know this pretty well, I didn’t get back into writing until recently. I had to be home from work with health issues to start writing again. I used to write poetry when Renae was small, about twelve years ago. Why did I stop? Where did I lose my authentic self?

    This book was given to me by my sister in law about 5-6 years ago. The excerpt reads, “Jen, You are sunshine – do what you are meant to do! -shine- :) , D’Jne” She seen it, I had lost something. She told me one day, when I walked through the room I had a glow about me, this glow made the room brighter which made others happy. She told me I was lacking that! My husband said the same thing in other words about a year ago.

    These are questions we must ask! I ask all of you to please not forget who you are! Look in the mirror and bring your authentic self back. What pleases you? What makes you the person that defines wholeness? What are you missing?

    It may always be something, but it could be worse so please find who you lost, or if you haven’t lost yourself keep you alive. SHINE!

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