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I’m gonna share a true story about how being honest is better than hiding the truth. I know your probably rolling your eyes and shaking your heads in disbelief, but trust me being honest can save you and your parents A LOT of time and energy.
So as you may have guessed the story is about me. I have this history of telling fibs in order to dodge the consequences (as many of you out there have. Specifically about serious situations involving immature beings (boys). I recently had a problem with a kid that wanted to take being friends to a higher level. He was overly friendly and had bigger plans for the two of us. Plans that not only would and did get me into a tight spot, but cost me a moment of shame.
Now the first thing that came to mind was how to make it so my parents wouldn’t find out about him in any way. The second thing was what extent would I go to, to hide this from my parents? Was I willing to risk everything for a kid I wasn’t even really in to? Of course not! So I took a few nights to think it over and plan my confession, and I did and escaped with a firm lecture. They explained the dangers of lying, but they were also proud I had come to them before the situation got crazy.
So the moral of this tale is, if you lie you’re not only making your dilemma greater, but you aren’t being any better than the problem itself! So what if you get your social life taken from you for a set amount of time, by being truthful you ‘re saving yourself from a boatload of trouble that would’ve come from one lie.
Parents, if you’re worried that your child might be hiding something from you take the time to approach them gently when encouraging them to come to you. When doing this, you’re making them feel a little bit better about his/her situation. We become more vulnerable to confessing as apposed to keeping secrets.
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Why do teenagers have them? Well I happen to be a teenager myself and I’ve got an answer for that question. We have them for one reason. In my opinion, we do it for control. That doesn’t make it acceptable, but that’s why. It’s that will to do what we want and to get that last little word in. We are so determined to make it so that we are heard and understood at any cost.
I don’t have them as much as the average teen might, but trust me; I’ve had my fair share of ‘tudes. I used to think an attitude was just something you can hear and see. But now I know it includes being silent!
I’ll give you an example. The other day I as on this very computer playing the Sims…. It was my younger sister’s turn to play her family. I was told to get off and didn’t. I got told to another time and this time it was a bit sterner. I looked up at my mom and frustratingly exited my family. “Are you having an attitude?” she asked. I didn’t respond and continued to get put pressure on the mouse when hitting the “exit” button. After several seconds of questioning, I just scooted from the desk and swiftly stomped off. She caught me by the arm and asked me a third time “Are you having an attitude?” I looked up at her and said in a low monotone voice “No”.
Obviously that wasn’t convincing. “Go to your room” she said. I was fuming by then and decided that I did nothing wrong so I stayed in the hallway starring at her. How dare she I thought. I did nothing wrong …or maybe I did. I reluctantly went to my room to figure out what I had done.
So in conclusion if any parents are wondering why the sudden change in their children is accruing, there you have it. It’s the struggle for control and dominance. Once we see what could be, rather than what is, we jump at that opportunity to say what we feel. It may not always be right, but understand that most of the time; we aren’t trying to cause any permanent damage to your feelings.
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Nowadays people are concerned with the newest fads and what’s in and what’s out. Everybody wants to be “in” or cool. Nobody wants to be the “outsider” or the not cool one.
I say it’s better to be the different one than the ‘it’ person! If you are the same as everybody else, how does that make you cool? If you act and do the same things as everyone else you aren’t really unique. I prefer to be the one people can point out in the crowd. I like to be the person anybody can obliviously find.
I say: it’s better to be the spectacle rather than the “onlooker”. Sounds a bit odd I know, but trust me, it pays off to be recognizable. If you are the person that people always pay attention to, your bound to have more true friends than “friends” that are with you because you’re the cool guy. Why? Because what happens if you stopped keeping up the newest styles and the coolest hairdos? Would those friends you had then still be there? Think about it.
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Rings, what do they mean to you? When you see a person walking down the street, and they’ve numerous rings on, what’s the first thing you think? I happen to be a victim of starring, like we all have at one point or another. I have at least one ring on each finger. If I’m not wearing a ring I literally feel bare or uncomfortable. I started wearing rings when I was seven. At that point I was only wearing one. From that time on, I’ve always had this “thing” for rings. I’m 13 now and my rings and I are inseparable. I wear them every day, all the time.
I wear them because they tell a story about me. Every last one of my rings represents an event that happened in my life. Like, I have a sterling-silver band with pink gems in it. I got that ring when I was 11 and I always wear it on my married finger. Not because I want people to think I’m married, but just because that’s where it’s most comfortable. When I wear my rings I feel safe or protected in a way. I feel secure when I know that if all I’ve got is taken from me; I will always have my rings. They’re like a part of me.
Is there something that you can’t bear to part with? Please comment below.
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